The illness, called COMPARISION

I always wondered about why people compare their life with other people they know or don’t know, make their own assumptions and live with it almost the half of their life. There is no one who has not faced this comparative theory in life, but some of us come out of it with time. Not all though!

You don’t know much about other’s life or if you know something through social networks or friends it is only the limited information that you perceive from the way that person has portrayed him. How can you judge a person and his life on the basis of your so called inside info. You crib about your life’s challenges, hard times, and umpteen amounts of dreams not coming true. They are humans like you with many failures in their kitty, sad times, and struggles may be much more painful than yours and a loss that is just irreplaceable. When the life is so different then what is the point of having a comparison.

Life is full of surprises and sacrifices. The surprises are different for each one of us and likewise the sacrifices are different too. Then how can you compare lives and say he is happier, settled in life and make it an excuse to heal your failure or weakness. C’mon face the truth. You know only your life and you are responsible for all the decisions you have made in life. Be it a failure or a success, embrace it with grace. Do not bring in people as an excuse for anything you were not able to get. May be the person you have listed in your examples living a perfect life has suffered ten folds more than you or is still suffering. The only difference is that he has not given up and accepted his life with a happy heart.

Stop the silly comparisons and instead of cribbing about your life’s failures, think of the way that can keep you happy and calm. The more you are happy, the freer is your soul and it leads to a happy life. A heart full of happiness, far from jealously and those misleading comparisons, lead us to a good life that we always dream of. Don’t we? 

"Instead of this fruitless debate about having it all, men and women should focus on what make us happy. Instead of comparing our lives with people we don't know who are making sacrifices we don't see, we should try to find the right balance between home and work life."  ~ LZ Granderson